Divorce can often make one feel unsettled, unorganized and possibly even, unloved, especially on Valentine’s Day. Even if a divorce is going relatively smoothly, going through your first Valentine’s Day without a partner can ignite all sorts of feelings.
Here are some options to help you cope and get you through the day:
Avoid Social Media
If you’re single and unhappy about it on Valentine’s Day, it’s wise to avoid social media. Even the most kind and selfless person could find themselves feeling jealous, sad or angry when seeing others posting their romantic selfies or gushy sentiments on social media. Don’t torture yourself – just stay away!
Do Something for Yourself
Make your own memories and do something for yourself! Think of the things that make you happy, but you never give yourself permission to do them. Treat yourself to a nice meal or a decadent dessert that you wouldn’t normally order. Have a comfy day at home, reading, baking, playing videos games – or anything you love to do on your own. Splurge on that designer purse or fancy watch. Take a walk at a nature preserve. Whatever you choose, make sure you’re doing it just for yourself.
Do Something for Others
Doing something kind or thoughtful for someone else can bring so much joy to you and the other person. Write a letter to a friend you haven’t talked to in a while, make a donation to your favorite charity, volunteer for a few hours at a non-profit, or pay for the person behind you in the drive-thru line. Little things can give you a “feel good rush” and distract you from Valentine’s Day. If you have kids, get them involved in spreading some kindness to others. They may need the distraction from your divorce as well.
These suggestions may get you through the day, but you will likely continue to have some ups and downs throughout your divorce process. Always keep in mind that there is a reason (or many reasons) you’re getting divorced. Try to have a positive attitude and focus on the present.
If you are struggling with child custody, child support or property division issues, contact an attorney. The experienced divorce lawyers at Peterson, Berk & Cross, S.C. offer a free, 30-minute consultation.
About the Author
Meghan Petters has been with Peterson, Berk & Cross, S.C. for over 15 years. She spent the majority of her time as a family law paralegal but has also been managing the firm’s social media platforms for many years. Prior to joining the firm, Meghan had a background in communications. She currently serves as the firm’s Social Media and Marketing Coordinator.